A lot of men think emotional intelligence means getting better at talking about feelings. “I’m frustrated.” “I’m overwhelmed.” “I need some space.” That can be part of it. But emotional intelligence isn’t how much emotion you express. It’s your ability to recognize...

A lot of men are getting very good at using therapeutic language to defend themselves. “I’m setting a boundary.” “I need to protect my peace.” “I’m not available for this conversation.” Sometimes those are healthy boundaries. And sometimes they’re defensiveness with...

There's a moment in almost every hard conversation when something in you goes quiet. Maybe your voice trails off. Maybe you say "I don't know" even though you do; you just can't find it. Maybe you leave the room, or you stay in the room but disappear behind your own...